BONUS EPISODES are a great way for us to dive into the details of a particular topic. We feature guest co-hosts to talk about a particular article, study or text which allows us to explore themes and relevant new models of thought.
Life History and Multi-Partner Mating, featuring Andy Adams
In this bonus episode, Claire is joined by Andy Adams, from the Growth Arc. Together they read through Life History and Multi-Partner Mating: A Novel Explanation for Moral Stigma Against Consensual Non-monogamy. The article uses a new categorization for CNM - either multi-partner or open relationship.
And they exclude non-consensual non-monogamy (yay!). But was Life History Theory the best explanation for their findings? What does risk and romance have to do with one another? And do people assume the worst of one another?
This article was published in 2020, and was written by Mogilski, Justin & Mitchell, Virginia & Reeve, Simon & Donaldson, Sarah & Nicolas, Sylis & Welling, Lisa. It was published in Frontiers in Psychology, 10 (10.3389/fpsyg.2019.03033).
The Growth Arc is an educational-based coaching program for your relationships needs - whether that’s a relationship with yourself, another person, or multiple people. You can find The Growth Arc on Facebook, Instagram, twitter, and of course at https://www.thegrowtharc.com/.
Life History Theory as presented by Claire draws on the library of resources found here and you can find Sarah Hill’s interview on puberty and Life History Theory on the ‘Here We Are’ podcast episode 126.
Non-monogamy Agreements and Safer Sex Behaviors: The Role of Perceived Sexual Self-Control, featuring Jenelle Marie Pierce
The wonderful Jenelle Marie Pierce, from the HANDS initiative and the STI Project, joins us to discuss safer sex behaviors in the non-monogamous community, based on this non-American study
In this bonus episode, we are joined by special guest co-host Jenelle Marie Pierce of The STI Project: Breaking the Stigma®, to discuss whether non-monogamy agreements can improve ones perceived sense of sexual self-control, and therefore make us more likely to engage in condom negotiation and use. And boy, do we get in it! Reading a fantastic article by David L Rodrigues, Diniz Lopes and Terri D. Conley, first published February 13, 2019. This can be found on Taylor & Francis Online here. You can find more about Jenelle on here instagram @thestiproject, at the Herpes Activist Network (HANDS) and at her current bylines on O.School, SELF, HepatitisC.net, Kinkly, PornHub’s Sexual Wellness Center, and Allure. We also encourage you to check out PositiveSingles.com.
A Discussion on Polyamory as Imtimate Practice, Identity of Sexual Orientation featuring Michael Haag
In this Episode we are joined by Michael Haag, creater and host of Probably Poly to talk about if polyamory is an orientation, relationship style or identity, and if, how and when should fall into LGBTQIA+ umbrella.
In this freestanding bonus episode, Claire and Sebastian are joined by special guest co-host Michael Hagg to discuss whether Polyamory is an identity, intimate practice or sexual orientation. In their 2014 article, Kleese surveys academic and activist discussions on sexual orientation and traces contradictory voices in current debates on polyamory.
While some consider polyamory to be nothing more than a convenient label for their current relationship constellations or a handy tool for communicating their willingness to enter more than one relationship at a time, others claim it as one of their core identities. But is there something political in using sexual orientation language? Could polyamory join the LGBTQIA+ movement? And how much do labels actually help us in the first place?
Polyamory: Intimate practice, identity or sexual orientation? by Christian Klesse was first published February 5, 2014. This can be found on Sage Pub here. We also mention another Kleese article in this episode, regarding 'slippery slope' arguments made about polyamory, which can be found here.
To hear more from Michael Haff, we urge you to check out Probably Poly! For more on the Young Poly Carolinas you can see their facebook here, or listen to their Probably Poly guest episode here.
Sommerville City Ordinance and Polyamorous Relationships with Matthew Thomas (Attorney)
As Sommerville becomes the first city to expand it's definition of partnership to more than two, we sit down with openly polyamorous lawyer, Matthew Thomas, to discuss what this means for the CNM community
In this bonus episode, Sebastian is joined by special guest co-host Matthew Thomas, a polyamorous lawyer from Somerville, MA to talk about a recently passed ordinance which expands the definition of domestic partnership beyond two people. Not only is this an incredible step forward for poly people, but this ordinance is likely the first of its kind in the US. Join Matt and Sebastian as they talk about how this came to be and what it might mean for us going forward.
The Poly-friendly directory of legal professionals can be found here.
Diana Adams, Esq. who's NYC firm specializes in family law can be found here.
The ordinance in question can be viewed here.
For another discussion on Polyamory and the Law, see here for ep 167 by the Multiamory pod.
**Note: Matthew is a practicing lawyer in Massachussetts but is not an expert in family law. Our discussion is not meant to be legal advice, but a general discussion of the ordinance and its possible implications. If you need legal support or advice regarding polyamorous or non-traditional family structures please consult someone who specializes in this including those listed in the resources above.
A Discussion of Poly-Hegemonic Masculinity in Polyamorous Relationships featuring Michael Greer
In this episode we are joined by CUNY PhD candidate of Philosophy, Micheal Greer, to talk about Sheffs seminal work on masculinity in polyamorous community and culture.
In this freestanding bonus episode, Claire and Sebastian are joined by special guest co-host Michael Greer to discuss how masculinity is defined and challenged in non-monogamous spaces. In her 2006 article, Sheff explores the ways that polyamorous men, through their emotional expressions and management, are complicit with, subordinate to, and resistant of hegemonic codes of masculinity.
But what elements of the hegemonic masculinity complex are carried into poly spaces? Is emotional labour more egalitarian in non-mono spaces? How does the alpha male work when sexual monogamy is abandoned? Are men more 'woke' if they are poly? And what does all of this mean for the women who love them?
Poly-Hegemonic Masculinities by Elisabeth Sheff was first published December 1, 2006. This can be found on Sage Pub here. For more from this author – which is a lot – please see her personal website here.
NB: Sheff does not use the terms ‘toxic masculinity’ or ‘prototypical male’ in this article. Your hosts do use these in this episode to refer to different facets of Hegemonic Masculinity. We apologize for the confusion.