Claire and Sebastian are talking about conflict in intimate relationships. We have probably learnt that conflict is bad, and we don't usually spend a lot of time thinking about how we behave in and after conflicts. Dossie and Janet contend that conflict is actually a good thing, giving us opportunities to learn more about each other and ourselves.
If you are polyamorous/non-monogamous there are going to be more times for conflict to crop up because more people are involved, and will have less practice and support for resolving them.
In this episode, we talk about about how to act better in a fight or disagreement. What is the difference between venting and constructive disagreement? How do you avoid triggering each other? What are some quick communication tool to upgrade your conflict communication inc a time out, i-messages and journaling?
Check out our minisode for this chapter's homework here!
Multiamory offer a wonderful crash course in ep 151, here, and also cover toxic habits in relationships in ep 223, here.
Brene Brown Netflix Special: The Call to Courage
The Intimate Enemy: How to Fight Fair in Love and Marriage, by George Robert Bach, Peter Wyden
Non-violent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg
Use You're Words by Dr Stephanie K Webb
See Ep 8: Abundance here
Season One of Poly Pages is reading Hardy, J. W., & Easton, D. (2017). The ethical slut: A practical guide to polyamory, open relationships and other freedoms in sex and love (3rd ed.). Berkeley, CA, CA: Ten Speed Press.